First thing first, I have nothing against cadar, nor am I in favor of it. I have never joined the people who made fun of cadar, neither have I defended it. I don’t even want to discuss the hukum of wearing it.
This post is purely written out of my curiosity. Well, and a wee bit of confusion.
So, there’s this account on facebook, owned by a local restaurant. One cadarer (she called herself that, so let’s just use that word from now on) asked the restaurant if they have a separate dining space for cadarers, with the reason being “supaya wajahnya nggak dilihatin orang.” Expectedly, the restaurant doesn’t have that kind of area. It was an aiming-for-teenagers kind of restaurant. Of course, it doesn’t have a closed-private-vip area like high class restaurants do. Anyway, some more cadarers joined the conversation, suggesting the restaurant to provide a closed area. Of all of them, only one cadarer was sure that nobody would stare at them when they’re eating with their cadars on.
I think it’s a little strange.
It’s strange how they don’t want people to look at their faces, yet they have facebook accounts! With photos in it. With pose. With two fingers forming a V, and whatnot. I mean, if they don’t want people to look at their faces, why create a facebook account in the first place? Why upload photos in it? You think people can’t look at your faces in the photos? Well, guess what, not only that they can look, they can also stare. They can stare for a loooooonggg time at your face. Now, why is that any different with staring at your face while you’re eating? What is your cadar for, then? See my logic here?
I am not against cadar, I made that clear. My aunt and my cousin wear it. Their favorite restaurant is Pizza Hut, visit it almost every week. With their cadars on. And they don’t give a sh*t when people stare at them. And there’s no way in hell that they would join facebook. Because they believe that their cadars are meant to protect themselves and everyone else from the sin of looking at a woman’s face.
The way I see it, when you devotedly believe in one thing, then be consistent about it. If you believe that it is haraam for people to look at you, then keep the social activities to a minimum. Do take away your food, don’t go nongkrong, and definitely don’t go parading yourselves in social networking sites.
Of course, being the nosey person that I am, I commented on their post. I know. I can’t believe I did that, either. Tsk.